Ecclesiastes 3:1-15 says "For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven: a time to heal and a time to break down...
a time to weep and a time to dance...
a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing,
a time to search and a time to give up,
a time to keep and a time to throw away,
a time to tear and a time to mend
a time to be silent and a time to speak
a time to love and a time to hate..."
I think that one of the hardest things to accept gracefully is change.
In my life experience, I feel I am always growing, always changing, always altering my perception of things, always meeting new people. I love to travel; I love to taste the different beauties of the world, yet with discovery, with motion, with change comes goodbyes.
Saying goodbye is hard and exhausting mentally.
I believe that as humans one of our primary callings by God is to love. I believe that by loving others we glorify Christ. But love took Jesus Christ to the cross of calvary where He was crucified for our sins and when he died there for us He taught us an important lesson, love is not free.
Love is beautiful. It is a risk. It is worth it. It demands sacrifice, conviction, dedication; it changes the heart and the mind and makes it pure. But when love is broken, when people leave us- there is pain.
I don't believe that in a perfect world- or in heaven- we will have to say goodbyes.
Yet I do believe that in this life, to live to our fullest, learning to say goodbye and accepting change is necessary.
Sometimes God brings people into our life for just a few moments and sometimes He brings people into our life for forever. Both people can change our life and we also always have the power to change theirs. It's hard at times not to wish for people to come back into our lives or to stay with us but sometimes a small amount of time with a person is just what we need to grow.
It's amazing how much people can impact your life even in a short amount of time. As I look back on my life, I am so amazed at the people I have met and had the privilege of growing with and loving. I feel like with every loving friendship male or female, I see more of the character of Christ. And there are so many people, so many friends who I love, that have helped me learn more about myself and changed my perspective on God. I have been so blessed with meeting awesome people!
It's hard for me because I have met so many people that I have literally loved as best friends as brothers and sisters in Christ, that sometimes I don't want to let them go. I want to cling to them; I want to text them every day. I want them to promise me that they'll never leave me. I want us to stay close forever.
But that's not the way life here on earth works. One season comes and then the next. Life changes and people change too. If you live your life, waiting for them, hoping for them, thinking about people who are not in your life currently, you will waste your life and when you meet them you will realize they are not the same person you waited for.
My prayer is this:
God help me to learn to be graceful
In the way I make friendships and the way I say goodbye
Help my love to be unconditional
But protect my heart
Because you have said it's valuable
Help my trust not to be put in people of this world
Who can fail me
But only in You
Your truth, your salvation, and your promises
Help my heart not to be tired of saying goodbyes
But to always see the best out of seasons, situations, and other people
Help me to follow you
For such a time and season as this