God doesn't want players. He wants champions.
What's the problem with the dating game? What's the problem with flirting with maybe four guys, getting to know them, and keeping them all on your list of possibilities? Then you start dating maybe two of them, but inside your head all these guys are ranked.
So let's just pretend here: see maybe Johnny is 1, Frank is 2, Otis is 3, and Mike is 4. They're all special, all good guys, with different positive qualities that you are attracted too. So Mike and Otis take you out on two dates, and you enjoy the attention. You have fun, but secretly inside your head you wish that you were dating Johnny. But Johnny isn't interested at the time, so is it fair to drag Otis along for the ride? I mean you can get to know him right and have fun until something better comes along? Maybe it would work out, you never know.
Do you see a problem with this?
Colossians 3:5-6 So put to death the sinful, earthly things lurking within you.
Galatians 5:19-21 When you follow the desires of your sinful nature, the results are very clear: sexual immorality, impurity, lustful pleasures, idolatry, sorcery, hostility, quarreling, jealousy, outbursts of anger, selfish ambition, dissension, division, envy, drunkenness, wild parties, and other sins like these. Let me tell you again, as I have before, that anyone living that sort of life will not inherit the Kingdom of God.
*88 percent of American men and women between the ages of 20 and 29 believe that they have a soul mate who is waiting for them
*50 percent of all marriages in which the brides are 25 or older result in a failed marriage. " National Center for Health Statistics. Rates are higher in younger couples.
* 65 percent of altar-bound men and women live together before getting married. " Bride's Magazine
*The percentage of married individuals, over the age of 18, who respond that their marriages are “very happy” has gradually declined over the last four decades, though the numbers have leveled out in the past 20 years.
*The American divorce rate is nearly twice what it was in 1960
*Thirty percent of all women who are murdered in this country are killed by their husband or boyfriend.
What's the problem with the dating game? It's a game, it's false, and it's not God's destiny for our relationships. Is everybody doing it? A lot of people are. But a lot of people are sinning, suffering from depression, and ending there marriages in divorce.. is that what you want as well?
Pray about your relationships! Give God your relationship problems! Listen to what God tells you to do. It is so hard right now in this time, to love and live the way God wants you too. I challenge you to be different and to rise to a higher standard when it comes to dating and flirting and even being "just friends." No matter what you are messing with people's hearts. And every person is special and treasured in God's eyes.